Friday, February 14, 2014

Do you say 'Bah Humbug' too?

And so begins the tradition of couples being overly mushy in the most public of ways. And on the other side of the spectrum, those with hearts icier than a snowman's balls are complaining and railing against "Hallmark Day." Threats of punches to the face turned into pseudo-clever memes and fake heart candies saying, "meh," and calls to action for being loving 364 other days of the year all adorn the timelines the lovelorn, people who are poor litmus tests for their own funniness or those looking to be contrary for the sake of it. We'll skip right over the history buffs who remind us of the massacre. I think either side goes a little over the top, but what is America without extreme polarization and discrepancy on any single topic?

For the record, I like a little Valentine's day. I do, however, recognize that it has been slightly skewed via Hallmark and 1-800-FLOWERS. So what? So has Christmas, Easter, etc, etc, etc. If you celebrate Christmas, do you love Jesus every other day of the year? I mean do you actively celebrate His birth and life? Or do you just give presents. How many actually put out a nativity?

How is celebrating Valentine's Day an indictment on the love we show for one another the rest of the year? I don't see a correlation. There is nothing wrong with paying a little extra attention one day. It doesn't mean that the rest of the year is subpar. If you go berserk on Feb 14th and ignore your partner the rest of the year you have your own problems. But for the rest of us, we actively love whomever is the object of our affection, but one day we choose to make a bigger spectacle of it (Nor'easter storm years notwithstanding).

Let me ask all the negative nancies a question. Do you celebrate birthdays? You must hate that person the rest of the year. You should tell them that you're happy they were born every day, just to validate what you do on their birthday. Oh, but then the birthday wouldn't be special, would it? So it's ok to go a little above and beyond on certain days. I certainly know that my FB Timeline and inbox get flooded with "thank you for your military service" messages on November 11th more than any other day of the year.

Is it that you're alone and miserable? Is that why you hate on Valentine's Day? I feel for you. It sucks to be alone in the face of every happy couple you know. Do you want to punch friends that are more financially successful too? Maybe your negativity and willingness to drag down happy people is part of the reason you're in the spot you are in, in the first place. Maybe. I don't want to assign any "whys" to any of it. Just saying that nastiness has consequences.

Anyway, whether it's overboard or not, it comes from a good place. So let people be happy. I choose to not go totally bananas and the things I like to do are typically a little more private, but that doesn't lessen my intention compared to those that post ad nauseam about it. I suppose that's the only reason I'm not victimized by the "love grinches" out there.

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