I know in recent months I've done some bitching about things in life. I hit a rough patch with my social life, but all that has slowed down. Those that I don't get along with and have beefs with have been eliminated. My life has been decidedly less dramatic. What's funny about it is that I've been the same person throughout all of it. I haven't budged on who I am, how I act, what I think or any part of my person. The people that are still in my life are wonderful, trustworthy people. We all have fun. We hang at the pool and get some sun, have some beers and then grill and enjoy tasty food and good companionship. We get together on Xbox and save the world. It's easy. It's fun.
When there's a social agenda, I pick up the phone. Sometimes they pick up the phone. It's very natural. It's a two way street. Not everyone subscribes to that policy though. There are some people around that require chasing. They want to hang out. They want to have fun. They enjoy time when they are all together, but if you don't call them, they don't call you. If you don't and they hear that people have been social, they get upset.
This has gone so far that the be all, end all of friendship statuses, Facebook, has shown it. Someone didn't get a phone call over something and chose to click the magic "block" button. Keep in mind that the entire situation was predicated on tentative plans for some point. I didn't call, they didn't call. I have my life and they have theirs and as anyone knows, time flies by. So we got caught up, didn't make plans, they moved and now they're pissed at whoever didn't meet their expectations.
Normally I'd rant and rave for days on end at the ridiculousness, but I'm not going to. I can look to my right as I type this and see two of my closest friends hanging out enjoying a quiet Sunday before we head to the pool and realize that the drama just doesn't matter.
As for the rest of the folks that require the constant chasing... I have no beef with them in any way shape of form. I'm also not going to hunt them down. You know my number and where I life. Wanna hang out? Call. If not, then don't. It's all good. When we see each other we have fun and enjoy it but I have enough going on that I'm not begging anyone.
I have my job. I have school. Within the next few months I'll be (with help from those who understand the two-way street) forming a new company. In 2 years I'm moving back to New Jersey. The last thing I need is to worry about any of this nonsense. So, I'm not going to.
Whoever shows up and puts the time in will get the same in return from me. Anyone is welcome to step it up and increase our relationship at any point. Until then, I'll be investing my time into things that have a proven ROI.